Life is a learning process, so in this process, we may encounter many unpleasant experiences that we may have done to us or someone else knowingly or unknowingly. These can be bad experiences with some situations or persons or something related to losing your goals or loved ones…
When such situations happen, these memories suck us completely into it so intensely.
To get out of this bad past or experiences, for some, takes a lifetime, while some are losing lives and not being able to handle it, while some keep repenting and get stuck in life without any progress… are these worthy is the question? Also, is it negative to have such a bad past or experience? In such situations, people around us console us, telling us to forget this lousy past and focus on the present and future! So the point is only when they face such a situation will they understand its impact…
We, too, might have told our friends when they face such situations. But when it happens to us, we will be in the listening seat to hear the exact words from someone else…
Here, I don’t mean that those who console you are wrong or that you are right! Both are right and wrong. Are bad experiences a boon or bane?
If so, what is right, and what should be our course of action?
I feel that a bad past is a boon, rather than feeling it as a sin. When there are many around you, think, why is it happening to you, not someone else? It means life has some special lessons to teach you, and you are a special kid…
So, we shouldn’t treat bad experiences as something negative. So, here, I don’t mean the pain you have gone through shouldn’t have happened. It should happen. You dare to go through it, so only it happened. Pain is the most beautiful thing in life. It teaches you more than what happiness or joy can teach you. So, I think we should be more honest with our pain. Only then does honesty in life come out… So, we should honestly bear the pain of bad experiences rather than cursing ourselves….
So, one may ask, isn’t it a waste of time and life? I would say no! Pain with awareness is needed. This is the path of wisdom, but society has underestimated odd experiences and pain as very negative, calling it incapability… which is why its beauty is not realized. Getting lost in this society misunderstanding, some people lose control and even lose a life… Most of the suicides or depressions result from this misunderstanding of society enforced on an individual. So, my dear friends, don’t consider bad experiences as something negative. Instead, think of it as a blessing in your life to not repeat in the future. Never get lost in feeling sorry for what has happened. Instead, focus on what to do.
I am sure when you are in that sorrow, even though you know the right thing to be done … You will fail to implement the corrective measure. Remember, it’s not your weakness not to implement it, or your past made you weak!
Instead, realize that you are trying to bring all your energies together to give the best shot for you to raise. In providing the perfect start, we forget that we should take the first step forward to give the best shot… Sitting and thinking every night to provide the best shot or step, but sadly, there is no good time or best shot, and it never comes… Finally, you will end up disappointed that you cannot implement a solution even though you know it! This is something wrong compared to what we did in the past.
Making the right choice is excellent, but you are making solid excuses not to execute those choices, and we convince ourselves to justify these by saying it’s because of a bad past I became so! Is this what our past has taught us?? We are already suffering from what happened in the past. We are creating another past that will disturb our present and future. How many days should we keep making excuses… My dear friends, I don’t say forget the past. Instead, I would say carry your past as a treasure to ensure you don’t repeat it in the future and make your life beautiful… So herewith, what intent do you take your past matters?
Let us be conscious that we unknowingly value our incapability more than pleasant things. Rather than the unpleasant thing, our reaction to it all the time in our brain spoils the things. There is no point in remaining hurt. Being so projects, you are weak and easily manipulated… What is so funny about letting situations or some other manipulate you?
Doing so, you are spoiling your present. The present is precious to building your future, so utilize it to the best of your ability before it becomes past!
All we need to learn is to move on and understand the negativity… Carry the learnings of your past like a king in a chariot, not your sorrows! Stay happy and keep learning…
