Life is a learning journey, and during this journey, we encounter many unpleasant experiences that we might cause to others or have done to us, either intentionally or unintentionally.
Bad experiences, whether involving people or lost goals and loved ones, can deeply affect us. Some take a lifetime to overcome them, while others struggle and make little progress, constantly dwelling on the past. The real question is whether these memories are worth such distress. People often advise focusing on the present and future, yet only those who’ve faced similar situations truly grasp their impact.
We often advise friends in such scenarios, yet find ourselves seeking the same words from others when we’re in similar situations.
Here I Don’t mean that those who console are wrong or you are right! Both are right and wrong. Are bad experiences a boon or bane?
If so, what is right, and what should be our course of action?
I see a difficult past as a blessing, not a curse. When bad things happen to you instead of others, it’s because life has unique lessons for you. Bad experiences shouldn’t be viewed negatively. This doesn’t mean the pain wasn’t tough, but it happened because you have the strength to endure it. Pain teaches more than happiness ever could, and embracing it honestly brings true honesty in life. So, let’s face our painful experiences with integrity rather than self-criticism.
One might wonder if enduring challenges and hardships is a waste of time and life. I would argue otherwise. Pain, when approached with awareness, is essential and often prevalent. This represents the path to wisdom, although society tends to undervalue unusual experiences and suffering, labeling them as incapacities. This misjudgment obscures their true value. Misunderstanding by society can lead some individuals to lose control or even their lives, as many cases of suicide or depression stem from such societal misconceptions. Therefore, my dear friends, do not view negative experiences as purely detrimental. Instead, see them as blessings, lessons that help prevent future mistakes. Rather than dwelling on past regrets, focus on the actions you can take moving forward.
Even when you know the right action to take, sorrow can make it hard to follow through. This is not due to your weakness or your past.
Instead, understand that you are exerting all your efforts to do your best in every endeavor. While aiming for the perfect beginning, we often forget that taking the initial step is crucial. Contemplating endlessly about delivering the ideal performance or making the perfect move can lead to frustration, as there is no perfect moment or flawless opportunity that will present itself. Ultimately, this mindset can result in disappointment when you realize you cannot apply a solution even if you know it. This approach is counterproductive compared to past methods.
Making the right choice is commendable, but you are finding strong reasons not to follow through with those choices. Additionally, we often justify these actions by blaming a difficult past. Is this really what our past has taught us? We have already dealt with past struggles. Now we are creating new ones that will affect our present and future. How long will we continue making excuses? My friends, I am not suggesting you forget the past. Rather, I recommend using it as a valuable lesson to ensure you do not repeat the same mistakes and to enhance your life. Therefore, how you perceive your past truly matters.
We often don’t realise that we give more importance to our limitations than to enjoyable experiences. It’s not the unpleasant event itself, but our constant negative reaction to it in our minds that causes problems. Holding onto hurt serves no purpose and only shows that you are vulnerable and can be easily influenced. Allowing situations or others to control you undermines your present, which is crucial for shaping your future. Make the most of the present before it turns into the past.
We need to learn to move forward in life by understanding negativity. Carry the lessons from your past confidently rather than clinging to sorrow. Stay happy and keep learning.
